omg lesson #8: where can i hit safely?

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Kinky Anatomy 101 – the quick crash-course in parts of the body for impact play consideration.

http://www.devianceanddesire.com/2014/12/bdsm-impact-play-safe-zones/

Green - safe zones

Yellow - low risk zones (be cautious)

Orange - high risk zones 
(anything more than a slight slap can be dangerous since there important bones, nerves, & organs w/ little protection here)

Pink - don't fucking go here!


being the ethical sadist i am, i am constantly researching anatomy and trying to find good advice on how to really play as safely as possible...and still, you know, get to unleash some of my twisted and perverse fantasies out on someone :) it's a thankless job but someone's gotta do it. well, i have to b/c i'm a responsible dominant and that's me being responsible...

i am fortunate to know a couple of medical professionals that i can ask a random question of (but not too many lest they grow suspicious) and i have a sub who used to be an emt. but most of my research i tend to do online and a bit of reading up on anatomy, and practicing on willing victims (gently and with great care).

  • KIDNEYS: located in the back, below the ribcage and above the butt. the kidneys are extremely delicate and it doesn’t take much to impact them, so consider this area a definite no-fly zone.
  • TAILBONE: while you’re avoiding the kidney area, keep clear of the tailbone too. It’s at the base of the spine. easy to break; easy to bruise. don't do it.
  • SPINE: the spine in general, top to tail, should be avoided. it’s easy to bruise because there’s not much protecting it, and it’s made up of disks that could be dislodged or impacted.
  • HIPS: the sciatic nerve and several other nerves run through the buttocks and across the bony outer part of the upper thigh/hip. they’re fairly well protected by fat and muscle in your butt, but there’s not very much protection in the hip area.
  • NECK: along with your airways, your neck is a major superhighway of arteries, tendons and glands. there are things you can do in BDSM with the neck, but hitting it should never be one of them.
  • FACE: if you are going to do to face slap, do it safely. use your other hand to support the head and focus on what you are doing. a sudden rush of air pressure can damage the eardrums, so ears are a no-go area. i also have a lesson on face slapping, if you're interested.

i'll add more as i come across them. but these were on my scratch pad and i thought i'd share it specifically as it relates to impact play. if you've come across any great ones, please link below....

Mar 30, 2019

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