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kinky play can be a fantastic aspect of a relationship. there's oodles of ways you can play...it's just a matter of your imagination and what you've got available and on hand. but kinky play is not a 24/7 endeavour. 1. no one, NO ONE, can play 24/7. it's lovely to fantasize about, don't get me wrong. but it's not realistic. can you have sex 24/7 in your relationships? think about it. as much as i am fond of that thought, i know that i can't. i might want to. i might really really want to. but i can't. and there's nothing wrong with wanting it 24/7...as long as you know that it's not practical and you don't hinge your entire ask in a relationship around that. you and i are realists. well i am and you need to get on board with what i'm saying here. b/c being unreasonable is not the way to maintain a healthy relationship. just sayin'...  2. the second thing you need to realize, if you haven't already, is that as fun as play time can ...

fantasizing is not a bad thing at all. i like doing it myself :) here's the thing that is not so great: when people, any person, enters my inbox spouting all their wank fantasies when i don't know them, have never spoken to them, never interacted with them, never asked for anything like that filth, it sickens me. when that shit enters my inbox every fucking day or every other day - you can see where a girl might get, oh, a wee bit of a negative idea about a man and his fantasies, right? it's not that people have fantasies. it's that they share them randomly when they are not welcome, not requested, not solicited in any way. i don't care if you fantasize. i don't care what you fantasize about. just please don't share it with me. just b/c i'm a dominant woman doesn't mean i'm open to any and all sundry s-type male's fantasies. i'm still a person and my consent is important. i don't think being kinky excuses you from behaving like a dece...