omg lessons

recently, i read in a thread a submissive man asking why women couldn't be more like another woman who seemed to describe his perfect idea of a domme. he posted, quite innocently, i think, 'why can't women be more like you?' ahhh....can you imagine the responses he got? that women are not all designed to be his perfect dominant frankenstein built from all his porn fantasies and pro dommes he's known before. that women are individuals and there are no stepford dommes. so he could just. fuck. right. off. i'm paraphrasing. but you get the gist. it didn't go well for him. and he seemed really clueless about why he was getting so much flack for what he felt was a valid question. we all know (or at least i hope we all do...) that people are not born or made into our ideal image or type. and they don't do things exactly as we'd wish all the time. and life would be boring if they were. b/c if every man or the vast majority of men were my type, chances are th...

i'm a very visual person. i'm about the aesthetics AND the function. i like things that look hot. cool. dressed up. vivid. and nudity ain't it. your dick pix ain't it. now if your dick was encased in leather or latex...i might take a peek. which is all to say, that we women are not into the skin pix as much as men are. or maybe that's just me? and all my gfs. and all my domme friends. so i can't speak for all women out there. just the ones i know... don't get me wrong, we may salivate over the occasional 6 pack (not my thing but i've seen it online) and so on. but what we really dig (that is to say, all the women i know - vanilla and kink) is a well dressed man. now this can take many forms and there are so many situations. so for today's lesson, i am simply going to focus on kink apparel for boys...or men. take your pick. this is a subject near and dear to my heart. i actually did a writing on fetish wear for boys b/c the visual aspects of kink are ...

first off, this lesson is brought to you courtesy of @jackburden (on fetlife) who did all the research/ legwork on this. but since he's a bit shy, he offered all his work to me to add to my omg lessons. i don't know this young man in person, but he's awfully lovely when we message each other. just sayin'... now why do all the good single subs live so far away from me?!!?!?!? sigh but i digress...on to the lesson.... this could be considered part 2 of omg lesson#72: fetish wear for boys but the focus is really on underwear and more intimate apparel so really it deserved its own title. imho. men, boys, dudes, bros - you really need to up your underwear game. worn, torn, barely there, and gear with holes in them are not attractive. and i'm not even going to talk about cleanliness b/c that should go without saying. particularly if you're planning on bottoming or any public kinky play, you ought to plan to have some nice underwear, ok? now in @jackburden's words...

i shamelessly admit i love fetish wear. i love corsets, lingerie, stockings, the thigh high boots and pretty shoes. and i wear it for me. not b/c it fits a submissive's aesthetic for how a fantasy domme should look. i have a thing for latex and leather. and yes, aesthetics play a big role not only in my kink life but also in my vanilla life. i find that many many submissive men have images on their profiles with dommes with the quintessential corset and high heels all the time. and yet, when you see their pix, there is no fetish wear in sight. usually, it's their cock on display. or marks from a beating. or having been bound in some way. but no fetish wear eye candy for me. no leather, latex, etc. naked seems to be the common theme. which to me smacks of laziness. and no, i don't want to see your naked self. i want to see something that shows you put some thought, effort and energy into creating an aesthetic for me to enjoy looking at. to be clear, i am speaking of specific...