omg lesson#17: a little something about seeking mentors
today boys and girls, we're going to talk about mentors. i read a lot online about people asking for mentors. someone to help them 'learn the ropes' as it were re: kink. however, when you read their questions a little more carefully, you get the distinct impression that they are using 'mentor' as a stand in for 'person who is experienced in kink, who will let me fuck them/play with them while i try my kink stuff out of them or i let them try their kink stuff out on me'. umm, no, grasshopper. that's not what a mentor is. men·tor /ˈmenˌtôr,ˈmenˌtər/ an experienced and trusted adviser. advise or train (someone, especially a younger colleague). it's someone you can bounce ideas off of. ask how to approach something. learn about the thing you're thinking of doing by talking about it. maybe demonstrating it. not actually doing it to each other. now how would it have gone had you approached a worldly and wise, say, professor in uni to teach you about ...