omg lesson#33: the trials of a female dominant
some days, i am so fucking tired of being dismissed, being considered 'wrong', having my experiences invalidated, for simply being a woman. it happens more often than sometimes i even realize, in vanilla land. and i think the exhaustion grows the older i get. b/c at this point, with decades under my belt, nothing has changed. and it's a long weary road. i feel like i'm always fighting this. fighting to be heard. fighting for the right to voice an opinion. fighting to be considered as person. fighting to be seen as valid. valued. just fighting. all the damn time. and i can't fight the way men get to fight. b/c that will get me even less heard and less acknowledged and even more dismissed than i am already. i have to use softer words. gentler words. kinder words. more reasoned words. don't be harsh, smg. don't be overly aggressive, smg. don't say what you're really thinking, smg. hold back, smg. don't be a bitch, smg. egos are fragile, smg. peopl...