omg lesson#14: on hard limits, soft limits, no limits
people often talk about limits in relation to their own personal boundaries, no go areas, and possible cautious exploration with the right person. i think it's quite obvious that people have autonomy over their own bodies and what they will or will not tolerate, accept and/or participate in. it's all this consent culture we talk about endlessly really. healthy relationships include a few things imho: good, honest and open communication respected and understood boundaries enthusiastic and informed consent a sincere care for the other person your mileage may vary and all that. but i have lived my life and seen some shit. i think these are the things that stand up in vanilla and in kink. one of the things i really like about kink is the talk about limits. i could say boundaries but limits seems easier and rolls off the tongue a little better:) it's a pretty universally understood term in that it gives people pause. it immediately indicates a hand up, a stop, in a polite way. i...