omg lessons

there is a philosophy in kinkville that a good dom/me can't truly be a good dominant unless they've been a submissive first. from what i understand, this idea originates from "putting yourself in another's shoes" and being able to truly understand what it means to submit; to understand the trust and responsibility a sub places in the hands of a dominant; and to understand the "feeling" of submission. in theory, that makes sense. and for those that have taken that journey and felt that submitting has made them a better dominant, that's great. i wouldn't dispute another's experience. we all come to kink in a myriad of ways and we evolve as people (both vanilla and kink) differently. i just disagree with the notion that if one doesn't submit, one can't be a good dom/me. and here's why. being submissive is not just "bottoming" for a certain kind of play. if i consent to being flogged or caned or being led by a leash, that do...

i've seen many an exchange like this: female dominant: it's pretty easy to tell the difference between a lifestyle domme profile, fin domme profile, a pro domme profile and a scammer profile.... male submissive: no it's not! really? b/c it always seems blatantly obvious to me what a legit fin or pro domme profile looks like, what a scammer's looks like and what a lifestyle domme profile looks like (exception: blank profiles since they tell you nothing). but men often are fooled or taken in. i've read more than a few posts/rants by men, quite upset that they feel they've been taken advantage of/or feel pressured to pay tributes. and they get mad at all dominant women. i would suggest both lesson#  67  and  68  would be good to read b/c it's helpful to work your head around some of these things and besides, reading is sexy. reading to learn and teach yourself is sexier. just sayin'... anyhoo, in the interests of helping those who can't tell, here are t...