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sometimes kinky play can be as erotic as going to the gym or playing a sport is to me. it's adrenaline pumping. it's physical. it's exhausting. it's fun. and not the least bit sexual. i don't get aroused. i don't feel all turned on. i'm not even thinking about anything remotely sexual. crazy, i know, right? and for some people, bdsm and sex are inextricably linked. everything kink related that they do....is charged with something sexual. even if the play doesn't lead to sex, they are thinking sexual thoughts. erotic thoughts. for them, everything bdsm and kink and fetish is only sexual. and that's cool. nothing wrong with that. here's where i get a wee bit....pissed off... when other kinksters tell me that all kink is sexual and therefore it must be sexual for me when i play and i'm just in denial about it. or that, my narrow vision of sexual is simply penis in vagina sex so that i don't know what a sexual thought is, or arousal is, or th...