omg lessons

people often talk about limits in relation to their own personal boundaries, no go areas, and possible cautious exploration with the right person. i think it's quite obvious that people have autonomy over their own bodies and what they will or will not tolerate, accept and/or participate in. it's all this consent culture we talk about endlessly really. healthy relationships include a few things imho: good, honest and open communication respected and understood boundaries enthusiastic and informed consent a sincere care for the other person your mileage may vary and all that. but i have lived my life and seen some shit. i think these are the things that stand up in vanilla and in kink. one of the things i really like about kink is the talk about limits. i could say boundaries but limits seems easier and rolls off the tongue a little better:) it's a pretty universally understood term in that it gives people pause. it immediately indicates a hand up, a stop, in a polite way. i...

recently, in a femdom group, i came across a question from a domme asking about s-type men's motivation for posting dick pix and most specifically dick pic avatars. several men responded with something similar to this poster: "Sadly it's the best we can do. Most folks here don't want to post face pics (for obvious reasons), and so are left with few options." seriously?!?!? what. the. fuck? sadly, i think plenty of men with the dick pix really believe this. and sure, you can believe whatever you'd like. you can post dick pic as avatars all the live long day on some sites b/c it's within their terms of reference. no one, i think, is saying you can't. the question is more why would you, if your intention is to attract a woman? if there are men that really feel that's the best they've got or that's the only option (other than a face pic), ok. that tells a woman that the men in question, lack: any level of creativity; the ability to think; the a...

i am sometimes asked how i plan a foot play scene. b/c i like to plan. i like my aesthetics. i like my feet. i like playing with my feet on a willing sub. and while i'm not quite on the level of foot fetishist, there are aspects of form and function to foot play that definitely appeal to me. my foot scenes are not usually just about feet. i usually incorporate elements of s&m, bondage and so on. but i have done a couple of scenes that were focused just with foot play. just an hour of funsies with feet. if, however, you have an aversion to feet, are not into bondage or blindfolds, we likely won't be having a foot play scene. i still might think you're a cool person. if you're a brat and aren't into obedience? yeah, we're never going to play. if every scene you do has to include an element of sex? then we're not going to play. but aside from that, if you like my feet, we might get along fabulously. NEGOTIATION foot play still requires a level of negotiatio...