omg lesson#12...stop making consent so complicated. it's easy, really.
only a freely given, enthusiastic 'yes' is a yes. that is consent. i often come across online groups talking about consent. and if you didn't already know, consent is kinda a big deal around kink. it makes what we do less assault and more like fun/sexy/cool. consensual kink is the ethical kind. of course, this is just my opinion. but it seems really odd to me, how people tend to obfuscate and try to make consent really difficult or tricky or complicated. they bring in situational ethics and questionable practices and ask about 'where does one draw the line?' and should we be recording consent to 'protect ourselves?' i have some thoughts about this. probably some unpopular thoughts. like, if you think someone is crazy and likely to fabricate lies and tell tall tales about your intimate times, maybe don't fuck crazy ? or if you don't know a person well enough to understand whether they are giving you enthusiastic consent or they are feeling coerced...