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there's lots of reasons men label themselves submissive. one of those reasons might be b/c they've fetishized the idea of submission rather than actually being a submissive. i blame porn. but let's leave that for now, shall we? generally, being submissive as a role in kink (or label), is thought of as simply the desire to submit to someone's authority. that can manifest itself in many different ways. sure there's negotiation and consent. but it's the act of 'submitting' to a certain someone's authority, that one gets off on or enjoys or wants. a submissive finds satisfaction/happiness/contentment in the act of submitting to their dominant. a submission fetishist, however, focuses on certain acts, behaviours, and aethestics that combine to fit their 'ideal submission fetish' .  they only want to submit and give up control within those specific acts, behaviours, and aesthetics and likely in a very proscribed way. it's not the act of subm...