omg lessons

now i do wish i could take credit for this lesson but alas, no. this was a comment made by @RunningTheShow (on fetlife) which was so articulate and so spot on, i asked if she would consider making it a writing so i could post it as a helpful link. she invited me to use the comment, instead, as i wished. so full credit to her for the following: many male subs come to fetlife thinking 'being online' takes the pressure off (meeting a domme). if i could get one piece of information out there to male subs it would be this: a shockingly high percentage of you are really bad at online interaction. you gravitate to the scammers and fin dommes because they talk dirty to you just like the pornos do. then you cry about how there are no lifestyle dommes. most of you seem totally unable to discern between a woman with compatible interests and a person who is scamming or selling sex. chasing every prostitute and pornographer account all over fet is a sign that you're in frenzy and not us...

sometimes, as dominants, we get asked by people in kink, to help them with big life decisions. or small life decisions. with all life decisions. that somehow, the 'dominant' label means we are somehow all knowing, all powerful, all something better, than who/what they are. here's a secret. we're not. we're just people. we have our flaws. and foibles. our kinks and quirks. and our own shit to deal with. now, i'm of the personal opinion (and this is simply mine) that dominants ought to, by and large, have their shit together. hey, if you're thinking remotely of having some authority over another human being - i think you ought to have some self awareness, a fairly good capacity to adult, and some life experience that tells you to treat people decently. but i digress... at the end of the day, we dominants are not perfect. we don't have all the answers. and we're not your therapist. 'but what does that mean, smg? you give such good advice. you know s...