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i have read, more often than i care to think about, all the excuses in the book about why people can't find a kinky partner. now, mind you, it's most s-type men whining about finding a domme b/c, well, i'm a domme and i've spent my fair share of time on online femdom groups. and the excuses are fairly predictable. there's anxiety, social awkwardness (check out lesson#10 ), shame, not knowing how to go about it, and the lack of self awareness. all of those things can be addressed if you want to. they do require work on the part of the individual but if you've read some of my earlier lessons, there's some strategies, some helpful hints and some tools you can employ to help move past some of this stuff . if you're willing to do the work, you can invite good things into your life. but lord love a duck. the penchant that people have for telling me how busy they are and how they can't possibly find the time, money, energy to go about socializing with kinky...

the meeting yes, i'm a dominant. and i like submissive men. i seek them out as romantic partners or kinky play partners. but i look for more than just a submissive man. i look for men i like on a personal level cause they are articulate, intelligent, witty and fun. they are in essence, a person that is likeable to me. and what's likeable to me isn't the same for everyone else. that's why searching for compatibility is such a big deal. with me so far? so when submissive men contact dominant women b/c they enjoy similar kinks...that is not enough to get you in the door. i repeat, being submissive and sharing a set of kinks with a dominant is NOT ENOUGH to get you in the door. unless you're willing to pay . then all bets are off and look for those dominants who are interested in tribute and will be happy to indulge in some of your kinks and quirks. but i'm not one of those dominants. just so we're clear. ok? glad we got that out of the way. if you're still ...