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allow me to set the scene. you're a man looking for his first or maybe second opportunity to play with a dominant. you've been chatting online and the messages have been such a turn on. and now, you've arranged to meet. you can't wait. you are physically thrumming with anticipation. this is going to be good. soooo good . you can't wait. you've agreed to all the requirements b/c you are so damn excited. ooohhh yes. you are kneeling and waiting at the appointed hour by the door. you've put on the blindfold and gag and cuffs just as instructed on the last email you received. you can barely contain yourself as you kneel and wait. you hear the door open. you can't say anything b/c of the gag but you try to mumble, "hello mistress". it comes out something like "rrrmmhmmss". no matter. she knows what you mean. you feel her hands on yours, checking the wrist restraints are good and tight and that you can't get out. she checks the gag to m...

if it were possible for the eyes to roll to the back of my head, they actually would every time i read the word alpha or beta shit on a fetlife post, profile or thread. if you want me to dismiss you, then by all means, use those terms. if you don't mind me (and many other dominant women) seeing you as stupid or buying into pop psych or not knowing fuck all about people, then please, as you were. if you like when people think you're a fuckstick in a casual offhand way, keep on truckin' with your alpha and beta terminology. however, if you genuinely want to ask, 'but why smg are those terms not appropriate to use?'  the thing is,  words do mean things . we no longer draw pictures on cave walls to communicate with one another. we talk. we write. and the words we use all tell people about what we think of ourselves and the world around us. you can use whatever words you wish - i'm not here to censor you - but the words you use will dictate how others see you. how th...

you may or may not have heard the term, 'bedroom submissive'. all it really refers to, is someone who wants to submit when it comes to sex only. and all the other parts of their relationship, they would prefer to keep egalitarian in some way. lots of people talk shit about this topic, but i'm here to tell you... bedroom submission can be a valid approach to submission as long as you're not a submission fetishist  or masquerading as submissive when you're really a bottom .  you can truly desire to submit and be submissive only when it comes to sexual relations with a partner. it can, indeed, be ceding authority to a dominant when it comes to all things sexual and no where else. it's just about finding a partner who also wants and is satisfied to just dominate in the bedroom. unfortunately, bedroom submissives can get a bad rap b/c some men just want to be topped and fucked.  the topped and fucked model goes hand in hand with the  do me subs  phenomenon. i mean, s...