omg lesson#93: no, i'm not the repository for your kinky/wanker fantasies

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fantasizing is not a bad thing at all. i like doing it myself :)

here's the thing that is not so great:
when people, any person, enters my inbox spouting all their wank fantasies when i don't know them, have never spoken to them, never interacted with them, never asked for anything like that filth, it sickens me. when that shit enters my inbox every fucking day or every other day - you can see where a girl might get, oh, a wee bit of a negative idea about a man and his fantasies, right?

it's not that people have fantasies. it's that they share them randomly when they are not welcome, not requested, not solicited in any way.

i don't care if you fantasize. i don't care what you fantasize about. just please don't share it with me. just b/c i'm a dominant woman doesn't mean i'm open to any and all sundry s-type male's fantasies. i'm still a person and my consent is important. i don't think being kinky excuses you from behaving like a decent human being. or said another way, i don't think being kinky and having kinky fantasies, entitles you to act like an asshat.

i'm not kink shaming here. it's not the kinks outlined in the fantasies that i am shaming. or that fact that anyone fantasizes at all. it's the behaviour of complete disrespect and disregard for the PERSON who's inbox you've decided to invade with what is essentially your genitals. offline, when people flash their cocks in public to people, they are arrested for gross indecency. don't be a fucking wanker.

how about just finding someone who wants to read your fantasies and sending it to them? or how about putting it in your own writings so people have the opportunity to choose to read what you want to put out in the universe?

you have options to share yourself with others, be your kinky self and still be a decent human being. please exercise them. if you don't, you might find yourself blocked. potentially banned. don't lose one of the few great outlets you have to explore your kinky fantasies with others. with consent. with permission. with respect.

Apr 7, 2018

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