omg lesson#61: why i'm not interested in watching you wank

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so if you're some random dude on the internet, this should be pretty self evident. but lord love a duck, since there are several men who lack a certain level of good and common sense about why a woman might not be interested in watching a strange random dude wank, allow me to explain.

i'm not interested in random dudes' dicks. like ever.

i'm not interested in watching you grip said dick like it was a lifeboat off the titanic.

i'm not interested in watching you make a mess. where ever you choose to make that mess.

random stranger's faces while jerking off are not particularly pretty. i like to objectify pretty. you wanking is not pretty.

of course, there are some women totally into random dudes wanking off. most of them will tell you they require some money/tribute/gift card type reward for their time and attention to watch you wank - hell, some will even provide jerk off instructions (joi's for those not in the know) - if you smile, wink and provide the right 'inducement'.

i am not one of those women.

now if you're not some random dude on the internet and you're my man, i still don't want to watch you wank off. i might do it every once in awhile b/c i like you and you ask me nicely and it really really turns you on. b/c hey, if i like you, your pleasure is important to me and i'll give it a shot every once in awhile. but...i'm not particularly interested - for a few reasons.

you wanking means you won't be fucking me. you only have maybe 1 or 2 orgasms in you at a time and then you need some fucking refractory period.

you wanking is messy around me. i mean, if there's going to be a mess, i want to get messy with you not independent of you. ok?

you wanking is boring. there. i said it. it really fucking is.

did i mention you wanking is wasting a perfectly good fuck? b/c it is.

now if it's your thing, no kink shaming here.

find someone who's compatible with that kink. or pay for it. whatever. but it's not compatible with me. and it's not compatible with most women that i've spoken with. some women are more accommodating for men they like. some women are open to getting paid for it by randoms. but really, understand that you liking it doesn't obligate others to like it. or be open to it. or want it. so be prepared to be disappointed a lot.

but please leave me the fuck alone. joi's and wanting to watch a guy wank off appears no where on my profile. i have never indicated a desire for it or willingness to entertain this. and no, your money is no good here. it won't induce me to indulge you. shaming you for asking someone who's clearly not interested is not the same as shaming you for a kink. it's shaming you for bad behaviour which is fair game.

i'm linking this writing to all future requests. that will be my reply. never let it be said that you never get a reply. look, i'm being polite....you fuckers.

feb 22, 2019

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