omg lesson#42: whatever can you do with ice cubes?

i have a long standing rule with my play partners. b/c i play non sexually, they are not to get physically aroused while we play. now some may say that's unusually cruel and i would respond with, 'did you forget i'm a sadist?', but really, it's not like i'm forcing them or anything. and it's an 'obey me and get your mind to conquer your body' kind of thing.

anyhoo, i had one particular play partner who really really struggled with this. the consequence of not complying is that play stops and i leave. and neither of us really wanted that. but he couldn't manage it. so after the 2nd time we had to end a play session early, we sat down and talked about what was going on. he was really really trying. but this was new and he figured he might need a little help.

now part and parcel of our play is i determine what you're going to wear. in his case, it was ladies' underwear. so the next time i came over to play, and he was struggling with my little rule, i went over to the freezer, opened the door, pulled out some ice cubes and popped them into the panties. et voila! compliance.

as with most of my scenes, he was blindfolded, gagged, and fully restrained so he couldn't do anything about those ice cubes. and would you believe, ice cubes take a surprisingly long time to melt even when nestled against the human body? go figure.

now while he continued to struggle with the rule, which necessitated my use of the ice cubes for a few more scenes, we did get to the point that all i needed was to open the freezer door for him to go soft. conditioned response through ice cubes!

i love when kink teaches you new things :)

anyhoo, i'd heard about ice cubes in play but kind of dismissed it as boring. it didn't strike me as particularly painful or torturous and being the lazy dominant that i am, i am often looking to inflict the greatest amount of pain while expending the least amount of physical effort. i spend a lot of time thinking about this :)

but this ice cube thing opened new possibilities.

now i'm sure if you were into sexual play, you could think of putting ice cubes into orifices - you could even freeze water into various shapes to fit 'better' but i don't play sexually so not my jam. ideas for those of you at home, though. just be safe and maybe read up on it a bit. some of those cavities can be much more delicate than you might think.

but on to my ideas. b/c i've found some creative ways to use ice cubes through a bit of trial and error with some willing and obedient partners:

1. you have a sub on some thicker type poly. i would suggest at least a couple of feet 'overhang' around his body. and have him kneel on ice chips. or lay on top of ice cubes. the ice will eventually melt from body heat so the pain won't last. but it's fun to watch them endure it.

2. put ice cubes in a pair of socks or stockings and make them wear them with the cubes on the feet and make them stand on them until they melt. alternatively, you could just shove a bunch of cubes around their legs and make them stand while they melt. i've yet to meet a sub who can stand completely still with this...but i do keep trying. i would say the socks will likely soak up most of the melt but you may want to put poly or a garbage bag down for this one, too.

3. put roughly an even number of ice chips into 2 baggies. cut a very small slit into one corner of each bag. then, while your sub is seated (or you can have him standing if you want), apply a couple of nipple clamps (clothespins will not work for this, they fall off too easily). then attach a bag to each clamp. you could put a towel down underneath where the bags will leak as the ice melts. some people can only handle nipple clamps for so long. but i do find it's good for about 10 mins or so while you can be busy with other things or sit back and watch. and depending on how small your ice chips are, they will begin the melt, the water will leak out (not as fast as you would think) and the weight will lessen. cause i'm benevolent like that :)

4. you could always conduct a scene while a sub is seated on a bag of ice for the duration. it would mean that you wouldn't get to access his bum for play. but you know, needs must, sometimes. and you gotta give a little to get a little. alternatively, you could have him lying on his stomach with the bag underneath his chest, his stomach, his privates or some combination, thereof.

5. this is more interrogation scene type stuff and using ice water. you need copious amounts of it. in pitchers that are ready to go. and done at regular intervals. and i would suggest getting one of this little plastic pools you can get at canadian tire in the summer to catch all the water. but this is a little more complicated and does require you to watch for hypothermia and a bunch of other safety things. it's a thing you can do...i've done it. but read up on it before attempting this at home.

there's a lot of things you can do with ice cubes and ice chips and ice water. it's a cheap but effective tool in your arsenal should you choose to play with it. it does depend on the sensitivity and medical conditions of your sub, though. safety first! but i've found that it can mix things up and make your sub dread hearing the freezer door....and fear does sometimes pull at the strings of my wee sadistic heart.

got additional ideas to add? i'm always looking for a little inspiration!

Feb 1, 2019