omg lesson#25...if i wanted a dog, i'd get a dog...

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i get the occasional message (used to be more frequent but i think i scared most of them away, thank goodness) from men who want to be on all fours, naked and eating out of a dog bowl. and all kinds of other behaviours that might be relegated to say, a pet.

and not that i'm kink shaming those into pet play. you go on with your bad pet playing self....

no, i'm speaking of those men who barge into my inbox like a bull in a china shop (ha ha, funny mixing metaphors or something there) and explain to me that being a submissive man is about them behaving like a dog at my feet on all fours.

yeah, nope. i don't even like dogs, really. other people's dogs are fine. i don't want one of my own. they take work. i'm not into that kind of work. my son is lucky he survived his childhood with me raising him. seriously. and i sure as hell am not interested in taking care of a man who is acting like a dog. i'm looking for a partner. an adult partner who happens to be a submissive man that's smart and fun to be with.

there are the men who invade my inbox and indicate what a weak and worthless worm of a human being they are. a doormat for my shoes. a doormat to wipe my shoes upon. a doormat for under my feet.

yeah, nope. if i wanted a doormat, i'd buy one. 

i like the ones at ikea. oh, and canadian tire has some nice ones, too. they're cheap. and kinda disposable. my men are valuable. and so not disposable.

or there are the men who tell me they are the lowliest of slaves and only deserve to be caged and naked. or naked and orally pleasuring me. or naked and doing something stupid and useless like walking around on a leash.

yeah, nope. ffs. if you knew me, you would know i don't care to call anyone i care about and want in my life, my slave. and i hate nudity in general. and i don't watch porn. ever. i'm a total fucking prude. i mean, if you knew me, of course.

but none of these men do know me and that's clear from their messages. but hey, if you're offering random women their choice of personal dog, doormat, or naked porn slave - maybe consider that if those are her choices, she could go out and buy what she wanted. if she wanted a dog, she'd go out and get one. or a doormat. the naked porn slave is a little more questionable but i think she could go out and purchase those services if she really really wanted to. or watch some free porn, no?

what this dominant woman wants is a man. a submissive man. 

a man who's witty and intelligent and can keep up with me. who has the capacity to be strong and gentle; to be kind and compassionate; to know his own mind; who can absolutely make well informed reasoned decisions but knows that letting me make a decision doesn't mean he can't, only that he's ok with me taking the lead.

that's the tough part. the hard part. i can't just go out and get someone like that. so don't offer me what i can get easily enough all on my own. be something special. something valuable. something more.

or, you know, stop sending me fucking messages. that would be great. thanks.

May 12, 2019

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